“The moment we decide things don’t have to be a certain way,
we create the possibility that they could be better than we know to imagine them.”
– Lori Deschene
That was me 2 and a half years ago Happy ha ? Completing my first half-marathon
And then, another one :
And another one :
Until they became a routine I could do every week.
I needed something more !
So, the next thing I know I was training for a marathon.
And already making plans for a potential triathlon or the next Iron Man . . .
Wooow, that’s good, you would say.
Well, the real reasons I was doing were deeper than just the desire to win a medal. I was an overachiever and a workaholic as my inner critic was constantly telling me I was not enough. Always the highest goals . . . the taughtest obstacles to overcome. What was the point ? Filling the void that was growing day by day. The idea of having a “normal lifestyle” was just unconcivable.
By the end of 2016, I was working on 4 different projects, besides my studies and my trainings, I ‘ve lost loved ones and more than half of my friends on my race of chasing self-acceptancy . . .
My life was governated by all those “should’s” that were keeping me hostage of my own self-image.
I had no idea what was the significance of surrender.
Later in life, I have understood that “Surrender is not giving up on life but giving up fighting with life. And, when you’re not fighting with it, you’re working with life.”
Now, in my clear-thinking moments, no more “shoulds”, I moving towards my course of action. Not only has this been emotionally liberating, but I am achieving even better things and with a better result and satisfaction.
Today, I don’t having to prove to anyone, not even to myself ! Each day there are a thousand little victories, all thanks to surrender.
Today, even though I know I can do anything if I set it on my mind. But I also know who I am and that’s why I am enough !
Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you also have to.
What if you could break the chain of limiting thoughts about who you are and all you could be?
What if we drop the mask of perfectionism we are all wearing and embrace challenges, struggles, criticisms, and setbacks as a source of growth?
That’s what a growth mindset is all about. In contrast with the fixed mindset, where people believe their intelligence or skills are simply fixed traits. We are born with and we can’t do anything about it. In her book “Mindset : How we can learn to fulfill our potential” Carol Dweck shares how our brain can create a love of learning and a resilience that is the basis of great accomplishment in every area of work and life. This way, your success will be a lifestyle, a part of your life, not just a goal you reached.
My advice for you would be to adopt a Growth Mindset and Focus on LEARNING over ACHIEVEMENT. Make your work be worthed regardless the outcome.
Don’t doubt or judge yourself, but teach yourself and from yourself.
Looking back at those days makes me smile now, but if there is something I would like myself to know at that moment is that :
“Life is not a race to be completed,
but a journey that has to be enjoyed.”
KEEP IN MIND You are ENOUGH and UNIQUE just the way you are !
How did I achieve it ?
Find out here
Book I recommend :
Mindset : The New Psychology of Success
by Carol S. Dweck